There are a couple of ways of thinking about confidence and self-esteem issues. This depends on the therapy model you prefer to use.
1. Traditional psychodynamic psychotherapy approach: Confidence and self esteem is effected by various neurosis that are causing the person to be incomplete and negatively effected, thus resulting in poor self-confidence and poor self-esteem.
2. Humanistic counselling approach: The person needs to work on achieving various things in life, filling a variety of needs and balances, thus enabling them to grow and become all they can be.
In reality, these are just two ways of looking at the same problem. Certain events and learning experiences have caused the client to either fail to achieve self confidence, or have actually knocked their confidence. This then leaves the client with a need for two main things.
1. Resolve any issues, events, traumas, abuse, pain, grief etc that knocked them back or are holding them back now.
2. Find opportunities to expand, grow in confidence and improve self-esteem.
The first part is often best resolved with those types of therapy such as counselling and psychotherapy methods that address past events, patterns and the perceptual part of development and learning.
The second part is a process, often driven by Behavioural work, that seeks to provide positive learning opportunities and experiences. This may be partly simulated in advance using visualisation, hypnotherapy, NLP and other forms of positive affirmation and therapy. Combined such preparation work, and actual experiences provide positive momentum and improvement. The preparation work that hypnotherapy and NLP can provide are essential in those cases where the client is not ready to try things straight away.
The process therefore tends to be:
1. Reduce stress level and prepare the client with positive affirmation work or visualisation using hypnotherapy or similar methods (such as self hypnosis, NLP, autogenics).
2. Begin addressing underlying causes, looking for understanding, patterns and through understanding the ability to reconcile, gain closure and undo any negative learning.
3. Define new opportunities and goals using Life coaching.
4. Boost where appropriate with affirmation, visualisation, hypnotherapy, NLP etc as appropriate.
5. Implement new behaviours
6. Monitor and adopt new behaviours for maximum effect using CBT self-assessment methods.
7. Give the client time to settle, hit any snags, report back and sort out those snags, usually by having monthly or bi-monthly progress sessions in order to “round off” the whole program. These are often “put off” for a bit if all is going fine.
Hypnotherapy for confidence issues, self esteem and self confidence (Edinburgh, Glasgow, Stirling, Falkirk)
Because low confidence and anxiety often go together, hypnotherapy is highly effective in assisting with improving confidence, especially in specific situations. Anxiety UK recommend hypnotherapy and CBT as psychological methods for addressing anxiety issues (both are available). Hypnotherapy is now regulated in the UK by the CNHC, with whom Stuart is a registered hypnotherapist. CNHC are the NHS funded regulator for complementary health. CNHC is also an AVR scheme or Accredited Voluntary Register. Stuart is listed with both CNHC and FHT AVR schemes.
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Self esteem consultancy and training
Stuart has written practitioner training courses in anger management coaching, stress management coaching, life coaching (ASET Level 4 award) and Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (ASET Level 5 Award). Confidence issues are an integral part of most therapy processes and of all therapy practitioner training packages.
It is important to ensure that the practitioner is experienced since self-confidence and low self esteem can become quite serious over time, and may result in self harm, eating disorders, self medication, depression or other negative behaviours.